First, our
payment has been received for doing an FET cycle with another surrogate
in India. The new profiles for the ladies should come in around the
14th of the month, with the potential transfer date being the 23rd or
24th as it stands right now. After much debate, Harris and I did
decide to use 2 of the 4 embryos we have in reserve for this transfer.
When all was said and done, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks is
the "wise" thing to do if it doesn't feel right for us. We just
couldn't see putting all of the embryos in at one time because then we'd
be right back at square one with nothing left if it failed. How much
would that totally suck, right?!
The second front, kind of a
sub-front to the first one about the FET cycle, is that Harris went to a fertility clinic in Raleigh yesterday and gave another "sample" for them to send away for
further analysis. We've run all of the standard tests and even with the
karotyping done after this last miscarriage there was nothing to
explain why the pregnancies end in the first trimester time and again.
So, we decided to go ahead with the DNA Fragmentation testing that I was
told about. We only did the first level of testing (SESA test is the
name, I think), but that will take it down to a DNA level that looks for
any missing pieces as best I can tell. There's a secondary test that
goes down even further (called a FISH test, I think, or something
similar) that we could do...should we decide to shell out even more
money because insurance doesn't cover it. The main reason we went ahead
with this is actually because I had someone tell me about this test who
had gone thru 3 miscarriages herself and then another one or two with a
surrogate. It was because of this test that she was able to find out
that her husband's, um, well, you know, "stuff" was missing pieces all
over the place and that any pregnancy would never be able to come to
term because of the missing pieces. She said that they finally had some
answers as to that mysterious diagnosis of "recurrent miscarriage" that
had plagued her for so long. While having that information would be
really sad, it would also offer us a reason as to why things continue to
fall apart time and again with each pregnancy. That unknown factor is a
huge part of the frustration that comes with infertility. There are so
many different opinions that point to one thing or another - but never
agree. So, the chance to have a real explanation is worth the money, at
this point, and if it comes back with anything that makes sense.
Because NCCRM only ships off their samples to a contracted lab on
Wednesdays, it will be 3-4 weeks from Wednesday of next week before we
get any information. Of course, by that time, we'll probably also have
the results of the FET cycle. Should we have waited for those results
before doing the FET cycle? I don't know. We didn't find out about the
test until after we'd sent the money a few weeks ago.
In
regard to our robbery, we have FINALLY purchased a set of doors to
replace the damaged ones. The plan is to have them up by the end of the
weekend so they're in place before Harris goes to his turf conference
next week. Being here alone with plywood standing between me and the
outdoors didn't sit too well. I'd be a zombie by the time he got back
on Wednesday because I'd not sleep a wink the entire time if the old
doors were not replaced!
So, that's our update for now. Please
continue to keep us in your prayers. As the holidays approach, things
do become more difficult and I find myself getting weepy (and somewhat more irritable) a little bit
more easily. It sure would be nice to have another stocking hanging on the mantle next year at this time...
