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(Allie & Harris) Wife, teacher, patient, thinker, friend, worrier, planner, seeker. These are the hats I wear on a daily basis for the roles in my life. Harris and I've been married since 1999 and we have two fur babies of the feline sort. We have a pretty good life, all things considered. But, it's not complete. Seven years ago I received a diagnosis of PCOS, a condition which has taken a toll on both my body and soul. It will not beat me though and we will be parents.

Monday, July 16, 2012

Sighs & Lows...

We heard that the first scan was done this morning (their time), and it showed some problems.  The radiologist sent his report to our Dr. and she looked over it.  While there is a gestational sac (one), they said the doctor, "has reviewed the reports & found decidual reaction is weak. A 12x3 mm s/c bleed seen adjacent to the sac and surrogate does not have bleeding."  Further clarification of that from the doctor came within 5 minutes.  She said, "the scan is not perfect and you have a risk of this not continuing -- I am really sorry about this.  But we have had many cases where this resolves.  The best indicator is the heartbeat scan.  If you get a heart beat and make it to 12 weeks then chances are very good that things will progress normally.  Lets keep our fingers crossed and hope for the best." 

So, again we are in that limbo where we are sad, angry, and hopeful at the same time.  It's good that they are telling us about everything so there are no surprises.  But, we wonder if there will be any cardiac activity next week at all.  If there's not, then we know it's over.  But if there is, then we have something to work with.  So, we'll see.  Please, keep us in your prayers!

17 comments:

  1. Saying a prayer for you guys!!

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  2. Big prayers to you, hope it resolves itself, you must be so worried x

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  3. So sorry to read your news. Really hope that this resolves for you and your scan next week has heartbeat!! Praying hard for your little beanie. Best wishes K&J

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  4. Praying hard and crossing everything for you!

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  5. Keep the spirit up. Many Pregnancies start with both spotting, bleeding and sacs that are not "by the book". Even we did not had a heart beat before 7 weeks, still, he's sleeping here next to me as I write this. Be strong!
    Sending your little one tons of angelic energy to grow and stick.

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  6. Praying for this to resolve. Big hugs to you both.

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  7. Oh, Allie. Sending good thoughts and prayers. I am very glad for the no bleeding and I know the sch can be extremely common with IVF. Thinking of you guys and really hoping for an excellent hb scan. xo

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  8. Oh boy this road is filled with such intensity : (
    Thinking of you both and hope, with love and light that this resolves itself pronto.

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  9. Prayers from all of us to you.

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  10. Sending good vibes your way. On the surrogacy journey we find out things much earlier in the peace than we would through a "normal pregnancy" These things may resolve themselves and I am crossing my fingers that bubba sticks like glue (or something like that) Hang in there

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  11. Prayers and super strength thoughts to your little beanie, keeping my fingers and toes crossed x

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  12. You can never take the easy road huh!! Well, lets just pray this resolves itself, and like NewYearDreaming said we do find out things that we would not know in a normal pregnancy which can almost make it more difficult. We are all praying for your baby!

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  13. Praying for you guys....fingers crossed..

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  14. I had just logged on to post a comment on your It Worked Post but instead I read this. You must be so worried and I really feel for you. Praying hard that this does resolve and you get a HB. Love & best wishes.

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  15. OMG sweetie - I am so sorry for this news. Limbo is such a terrible place to be. Really hoping for the best for you love!

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  16. Hey Allie we've got fingers and toes crossed for you!

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  17. Allie, I understand this is not the sort of news an IP wants to hear. But nothing is definite until you receive the heartbeat scan. I hope you and Harris will keep each other strong because the road to parenthood can get bumpy sometimes, but it may get smooth at other times.

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