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(Allie & Harris) Wife, teacher, patient, thinker, friend, worrier, planner, seeker. These are the hats I wear on a daily basis for the roles in my life. Harris and I've been married since 1999 and we have two fur babies of the feline sort. We have a pretty good life, all things considered. But, it's not complete. Seven years ago I received a diagnosis of PCOS, a condition which has taken a toll on both my body and soul. It will not beat me though and we will be parents.

Saturday, March 17, 2012

S.I.T.'s ...

Having dinner with my mother the other night was one of the funniest things we've done in years!  I didn't exactly grow up in a house filled with laughter.  Certainly, the last few years of infertility have not brought out the laughter on a daily basis either; although I do try to maintain my sense of humor while paying people to poke, prod, and "service me" in such intimate ways.  LOL!

Since realizing that Harris may not be able to accompany me on this trip and asking my mother to consider going, she has REALLY expanded her mind on the topic.  It went from "zero desire" to "How many shots do I need?" to "Can I borrow your copy of the visa application because I'm confused."  If you knew my mother, you'd be astonished, trust me.  So, it was at dinner that I realized that she has also developed a condition I have been calling Stress-Induced-Tourette's Syndrome or (S.I.T.'s). 

We both laughed so hard that we cried (also a genetic trait, I'm sure) because every few minutes my mom would randomly shake her head and go "mmmff" and it cracked me up because I totally understood why.  Those were the times that she was imagining flying to India, being in India, and getting back from India.  She confessed that she will be walking down the aisle in the grocery store and a random word would fly out of her mouth as a response to a conversation she was having in her head (with herself) about India.  Symptoms of S.I.T.'s are varied.  There are random head shakes, nervous laughter at odd times, and (possibly most telling) the comments that fit with your mental conversation but make others nervous.  For example, at a recent yard sale I randomly blurted out, "Well, I don't really care about that - so screw it."  As you can imagine, that garnered some stares from those walking by and *NOT* talking to me. 

So, at dinner with my mom, it was quite comforting to know that this is not some unique condition that I've developed in isolation.  Apparently, at least in our gene pool, this is something that happens when one plans for the surrogacy experience and all that it entails. 

Anyone else coping with S.I.T.'s???


  1. YESSSSSSSSSSS my husband and I also have this condition. The other week, after having a gorgeous meal- we looked at each other and simply said "Well, that was SH**".......and completely understood the meaning behind it!

  2. You are so funny! I am laughing so hard reading this Allie. I didn't know how to describe the condition but both of us have had some of the symptoms. I was in the supermarket and blurted out to hubby " oh the shits!" He instantly knew what I meant and pointed to the gastro stuff......now I know everybody else on here knows what I am talking about (Delhi Belly) but the blurting out.....Hilarious. Hope your trip with your Mum goes well and that SITS calms down....or then again it's not so bad is it??

  3. So pleased your Mum is starting to look forward to a potential trip to Delhi.