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(Allie & Harris) Wife, teacher, patient, thinker, friend, worrier, planner, seeker. These are the hats I wear on a daily basis for the roles in my life. Harris and I've been married since 1999 and we have two fur babies of the feline sort. We have a pretty good life, all things considered. But, it's not complete. Seven years ago I received a diagnosis of PCOS, a condition which has taken a toll on both my body and soul. It will not beat me though and we will be parents.

Friday, December 30, 2011

Didn't work

Just got the email.
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19 comments:

  1. ADDecember 30, 2011 at 12:35 PM

    Dear Allie and Harris

    OMG can't believe it. I am so sorry for you, after all you went through. This is so sad and we so feel for you. Not sure what else to say other than please don't give up. We got our positive on the 3rd attempt.

    One day you will both make the most fantastic parents. Mia sends her love and a big cuddle).

    Thinking of you.

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  2. AleksandraDecember 30, 2011 at 12:37 PM

    Oh, I am so sorry. Take the time to get through this and process. Love each other and hold on. This will work, just keep trying.

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  3. Tandoori VikingDecember 30, 2011 at 1:25 PM

    I'm very, very sorry for you. :( I know how horrible it feels, it took us two practicing rounds to succeed. Please, don't give up. And I very much hope that you don't have to feel this twice!!!
    Big hugs of comfort and strength!!

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  4. AnonymousDecember 30, 2011 at 2:07 PM

    i am so sorry to read this Allie. HUGS

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  5. AnonymousDecember 30, 2011 at 2:11 PM

    So very, very sorry to read this, Allie (and Harris)! Our hearts go out to you both--I agree with the other ladies: keep trying--your time will come, and you WILL be parents. I used to struggle with why God would give me the desire to be a mother when I could never get pregnant on my own, but His grace is sufficient, and His timing perfect, though we don't understand at the time. He has a plan for you!! Give yourselves time to grieve. I went through 3 in vitro rounds (lost our bean at 7 1/2 weeks on the third and grieved for a solid year) before this fourth round was successful. Hugs and prayers,

    Jill and Alex

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  6. Delhi DreamersDecember 30, 2011 at 3:25 PM

    So sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you guys.

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  7. FGDecember 30, 2011 at 5:06 PM

    I am so sorry too. x

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  8. lisaluDecember 30, 2011 at 5:20 PM

    I am so sorry... but as everyone says keep at it, and take the time you need to get over it, this journey is not easy,
    we all have our road to take in the end we hope its our turn to have our dream!!
    kind regards,
    lisa

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  9. About Bernadette & DuaneDecember 30, 2011 at 6:12 PM

    Dear Alli, I would love to tell you to just "not give up." However, if it were simply a matter of will power, we'd all sure as heck have babies by now. There are so many other aspects- physical, emotional and financial involved. However, I have met you and I KNOW that you will be a mommy someday. Take time and figure out your plan. (And call anytime if you need to chat.) Sending huge hugs.

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  10. lucyluDecember 30, 2011 at 7:15 PM

    No No No! It's so unfair after everything you go through! I was so depressed and angry when I got my negative and I still can't believe after all the effort you put in even before you get there and all the meds, needles, scans, bloating, pain that you get a negative. It just sucks and sadly it's just the luck of the draw. Take time out and when your ready to move forward having a plan helps. So sorry xx

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  11. rossyDecember 30, 2011 at 9:21 PM

    Allie,I have been following your blog all along and as with many followers I have been cheering you all along.Please dont give up,its a tough road,no doubt about it.Take time to get mad at the world,eat lots of ice cream,stay in PJ's and watch movies all day long.....and then in the new year,dust yourself off,follow your heart and do what is right for the both of you.Follow your dream,its bound to come true!!I just know it!!

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  12. Meanderings of an Addled MindDecember 30, 2011 at 9:45 PM

    Nothing to say, but I am so sorry, I'm here if you need a shoulder.

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  13. SaskiaDecember 30, 2011 at 10:43 PM

    Take your time to look after each other & grieve. One day you'll gather the strength to make another decision, just take your time.
    ***hugs***

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  14. KrisDecember 31, 2011 at 3:08 AM

    It is hard to stay focused at the moment, but as with a number of other people, I agree that having a plan does help. Unfortunately, that is based on experience. We are all feeling for you, because we've been there as well and really do understand. It still all sucks though.

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  15. Annette and MarkDecember 31, 2011 at 7:23 AM

    I am so sorry that it didn't work this time, we went through the same with our first cycle being a negative and it sucks big time. After sometime to heal we started to makes plans to go back for another cycle and thankfully we were successful, it will work for you guys too, sending you both a virtual hug.

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  16. B and SJJanuary 1, 2012 at 7:36 AM

    So sorry for your news. This is a tough road we walk, but if you can continue a rainbow awaits. SJ & B xx

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  17. Kerrie and MarkJanuary 1, 2012 at 9:33 AM

    Just catching up on blogs and saw this very dissapointing news. I am sure by now the reality has sunk in with some force. Please know, we are all here for you. I know that since it took us 8 tries to get a positive, the road is not easy, and the emotions are high. Stay strong Allie and Harris!

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  18. CocoaMasalaJanuary 1, 2012 at 3:57 PM

    Allie Sweetie I am so sorry this cycle did not work, but I too agree there is a wonderful rainbow waiting for you and Harris at the end of THE ROAD. You are in my prayers...

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  19. SuzieBenJanuary 2, 2012 at 9:49 PM

    I was so sorry to read this news. It's always such a hard blow when receiving news of a negative. Thinking of you and wishing for a positive result soon xxx

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